Jealousy

Dear Blog,

“Jealousy is a green eyed monster”, that’s Shakespeare. But I would just like to give out some facts that I think about jealousy.

What really made me write this was a real life situation. I like to share that as well as the approach to this.

There was this b’day party of a cousin. Somedays before the party they came and invited to it. Just at the same time the cousin told me to bring my guitar to play and to chill. I’m not a very expert player but could play somewhat as I only started it very recently. So, this gave me a perfect opportunity to play in front of a group. Anyhow on the particular day as we were about to leave the house, when I tried to take the guitar, permission was denied from parents. When I asked why, they said that those people are jealous according to what they know so, it’s better not to take it. I was kinda disappointed. Anyhow I did not argue over this, but I thought.

The question is this, why exactly should we be reluctant to do something because we think that someone will be jealous? Is it really our problem of that someone being jealous of us? Is it really necessary for us to take us over by that thought?

According to what I see, here the problem is actually not with anyone being jealous of anything but with my parents to let them overcome by the fact that someone is being jealous. (It’s not like I’m blaming my parents, who are very good people but I’m just being straightforward).

Apart from this situation, I would really like to define jealousy as one of the main roots of all the evil. It not just devour one’s soul but also has a great effect on the others as well. Is there really anything to feel bad inside your mind and to curse or wish destruction over someone’s success? Doing that does not make that person a looser but only makes yourself one. One that cannot actually achieve that very success that he already has.

Getting apart from jealousy might be hard at the very begging. But it’s never too late. Why not start today? Why not start from today to fade out your envy? Then you will be happier and much calmer from your inner mind. According to my belief, the person that tends to think happily over the other’s success, always finds his success.First mentally, then physically.

Cheers :)

-Irosha de Silva

Nothing worse than a missed opportunity

Dear blog,

I would like to recall one thing that led me into this. There was this lecture kind of thing about IT-BPO( Business Process Outsourcing) after school which I attended merely because I didn’t have anything else interesting to do that day. There was actually nothing that I found to expand my ICT knowledge from that because it was mainly held to teach the children from rural areas the value of ICT in the modern world. But there was one major thing that I learned about life, “Nothing worse than a missed opportunity”.

The lecturer was a good looking, polite person but with obviously pretty much of confidence. In order to give the introduction to the lecture he used a pretty clever trick to show the value of opportunities. He took out a Rs.2000 note (which is somewhat money in my country) and just asked the question

“Who want this?”

Everyone was pretty much astonished and was looking at the faces of the others. After a delay of say, 20 seconds , some guy got up and went to the stage. Without any further questioning he got the 2000 bucks. Everyone was rather surprised and disappointed indeed. Then the lecture went on and on.

Truly, I couldn’t even think of anything else other than this that day. Why couldn’t I be the one to stand up and take that money? What made me keep there just sitting on the chair watching faces just like 1000s did? I seriously did think of getting some serious action about this.

Then I went to a deep analysis about this. After that day, I did not say “No” to anything. I always stood up for anything happening anywhere whenever I got a chance. After that day I always tried to become that guy who stood up on that day to take that 2000 bucks. The things that I learned, the experiences that I earned through that were just unbelievable.

What I basically have to say is that, never to say “No” to an opportunity. Always try to get in. I’m not talking about saying “Yes” when some buggers ask you to rob in the house next door. But the point that I’m trying to make clear is that to think wise and never miss out an opportunity in life. You might come across embarrassing moments when living with this approach but yet, in the end, you will find that the experience you gained through that has been priceless.

If it is for a good cause, then my friend, do not miss out an opportunity. Never be hesitant. Never put what you have to do today to tomorrow. It might be your last chance. And mainly, always keep in mind that there’s

“Nothing worse than a missed opportunity”

Cheers :)

- Irosha de Silva

Trends

Dear blog,

Just got me thinking over some inspirational lecture given by my chemistry teacher. It was rather funny how the chemistry lesson became a lesson of life, first starting from the essence of sun light for a particular reaction and then gradually coming to this very thing about life that I’m gonna talk.

I am actually unable to bring out the talk just as he gave but I will try my best to give out some points from what I learned from it and what I’ve been also thinking about this particular matter.

First he asked us

“Why are you taking science?”

No one was actually able to give a proper answer.

“Just because your parents say?”

“Just because all your friends are doing?”

Not to mention my reasons, for they are rather complicated than of the others. Nevertheless, when we take the ordinary ones, what they are basically doing is just “Going after the trend”. Just because he/she does it, I’m also doing it. That tends to be the answer of the most. Not just education based things but of other things as well. It is quite true that we have to move on with the world for unless we are gonna be left behind. But my point is that the people doing exactly what the others are doing just for “The Trend”. The major fault in this act is that we are going to lose our personality while doing this.

Let us take an education based instance like my teacher talked about. One major thing that keeps away a developing country like mine from achieving further development is the narrow thinking of the people that the only available paths in life are to be a doctor, an engineer or a lawyer. All the people are going after this trend. Most of the parents are forcing their children to go for this trend. By this manner, most of the talents and abilities that a person bares get buried in the sands. As a quotation in Buddhism says

“Lovin ekek ek deyakata wei samatha”

(Every one on the earth is capable of something unique apart from the others.)

These talents are not written in a book saying that this person has this talent and that person has that talent. As we move through life we just got to find them. But if we just keep on going after trends and keep on doing things in life because your parents say or your friends are doing or because all in the society accepts then eventually you are going to lose your personality and you are going to become just “One of the others” and be buried after death.

“Be you. Do what your heart takes you to. Eventually you will find success.”

Cheers. :)

-Irosha de Silva

Regrets

Dear Blog,

I’ve always used to urge my self and advice others not to have any regrets in life. But anyhow today something happened that I very much regret from my heart. Most of the things that we regret for the rest of our lives are mainly based on very simple things that we could have accomplished without much or absolutely no effort.

What does it really keep us away from not doing something like that tends to be really easy? The answer actually lies within ourselves. Fear, shyness and carelessness is mostly the main things that lead us to such regrets. The question that I have to ask is

“Is it right to regret for the rest of our lives just because you are scared of some short term embarrassment?”

I highly disagree. In most of the situations in our lives that we come across are “Yes, No” (Success, Failure) type of situations.

• You ask someone out. – the response could only be a Yes or a No
• You go for a job interview – once again, the response could only be a Yes or a No

Here what we should urge ourselves is that what we really want is not just the “Yes” out from these situations. What it really matters here is the fact that we are “Doing the thing”. If we get a No out from the situation, does it matter? It would always be a very good experience. If we get a Yes from the situation, then, “Awesome!”

This sounds much like the Nike’s famous “Just do it” approach. Nevertheless, according to my belief  “There is nothing worse than a missed opportunity”. If we just keep these things in mind and put them to action, I do believe that there would not be any more regrets in our lives. A life with no regrets is always a life that is up for anything.

Cheers. :)
-Irosha de Silva

Lucky

Dear Blog,

Yesterday there was this DJ night party and all which I attended and which was obviously fun. But as all the dancing and stuff were going through I was just thinking, I asked myself the question

“Just at that very moment that we were just hanging around eating and drinking and clinging mindlessly how many people out there are starving and suffering with nothing but a piece of cloth to cover their waist?”

At that very moment I did wish if I could just leave that place and help at least someone like that. I know, that we should have some fun once in a while but yet, as I have seen, there’s just too much of fun in our lives. We are just lucky to have enough to eat, drink and most of the other facts of life more or less so that most of the people forget charity and companionship towards the others.

I am not writing this to ask you to not to go to some parties and help others during that time. What I’m asking from you, reader, is to be thankful for what you’ve got for the moment and to be also thinking that there are just too many that are really seeking for your help. As you are a “Lucky” person to be sitting on a comfortable chair and be surfing through the net, do not forget to give away some of your “Luck” to those that are really in need of that.

Cheers :)

 

Cheers :)
-Irosha de Silva

Life isn't a matter of milestones but of moments :)

Dear Blog,

When recollecting back of what I learned today, there are some certain things that I’d like to note down.

To be frank, there is no actual definition of life, or may be it’s that I still haven’t figured it out yet, but as like some person in the history said

“Do not ask the meaning of life, You define it.”

Anyhow I could not yet found a real definition, may be I will find out as the life flows on, or may be just as I said there is no such definition at all.

Today we find some moment in life that seems to be absolutely perfect or you find someone who feels to you as the other part of you. But the very next day it just changes with no further arguments. It is agreed that the memory would last , yet that becomes all that you bare of the past.

Whom I would really like to call a Successful Person is a person that does not get shaken by any change as I mentioned before and is willing to change with the change. He would not be counting the milestones that he has gained in life for that he understands that it is just a transitory fact. 

After all,

“Life isn't a matter of milestones but of moments”

Cheers :)

-Irosha de Silva

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Cheers :)

-Irosha de Silva